You get to decide
Your house does not need to be a HOT MESS…Let go of the fear and the guilt.
Are you afraid to hurt your family member's feelings if you choose to declutter some toy that they had bought your child?
Do you feel guilty for not wanting to keep the outfit that your mom bought for your daughter?
The truth is that they will get over it.
The truth is that you can decide what stays and what goes from your space.
The truth is that family members that really care to understand how you choose to raise your children will get onboard and support you. (And if they don't want to understand, that is on them not you)
The truth is that you can be grateful for the love that they are showing through the action of gift giving, and also get rid of it as soon as it is no longer beneficial or useful to your family.
The truth is that you and your family are living in your home space (nobody else) and you can create a functional space that works best for you. No comparison, no regret, no explanation needed.
If your home feels like a hot mess because of all of the "stuff" that is thrust upon you from others, then know that you can choose a different path. You can change your mindset from living with fear and guilt, to a mindset of gratitude and empowerment.
A few ways to change your mindset
Decide what really matters to you and your family unit - use that to empower your decision making - especially in relation to your children's "stuff" and time. - Avoid comparing yourself to others - they are not in your family or live in your space. This is your story and journey!
Start by getting rid of some "things" that no longer serve you - practice decluttering and make it a habit - keep a donation bag or bin or box in your drop zone. When it is full, bring it to your car and then to the donation center.
Talk with family members about your intentions for your children's space. What you have learned about kids thriving in less cluttered spaces.
Give suggestions for experiences that your children will enjoy! - cooking together, going to breakfast or lunch, or visiting a local park, museum, play place, animal shelter or library. Focus on time together, not the "stuff".
Give suggestions of practical gifts - PJs, blankets/ towels/sheets, sports equipment or something for your child's hobby or interest.
For holidays or birthdays - limit the number of gifts or amount spent.
Suggest a gift for the family - like a game - then host a game night. Focus on time together - that's the gratitude piece!
Decrease your impulse buying - Pause before you purchase any toys for your children - even those small ones - they can be the ones that quickly turn into clutter. Is this a need or a want? Usually it is a want...and they will want something different next week. Save the $$$ and your time and space!
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